Sexuality and The Divine!

It is the sad reality of modern India, that we have become subservient to Western/ Victorian Morality, we are slowly turning into such sick hypocrites that it is difficult to even start a conversation, in these lines.

So, if a thirteen-year-old boy/girl who has just hit puberty, getting into their teens and they go to watch a movie with an intimate sex scene playing right out there, what to do you expect?

You expect the boy/girl not go get aroused, not to think in those terms, just watch it like it is a passing scene, act like they are 40-year-old grown-ups? It is not very simple as it sounds, what is it that is the repercussion, consequence of it? Either you accept the western way, accept that intimacy in teenage is quite common, and it's all right to choose that path, or are you looking at it from a point of view that it's not the right age, and maybe hence not morally just, to choose it.

But herein lies the problem, you don't have the guts to debate either of them, you want to play an ostrich and go bury your head in the sand as if it doesn't exist.

Either you do find someone and fulfill that desire, or you are made to feel like a hypocrite. Watching porn is any way, such an immoral thing to do, and hence if someone is choosing it as a plug hole, as a means of not crossing the line of sanity, we choose to label them.

So, you have a woman masturbating scene in a movie, and it is described as path-breaking, history in the making? How do you want young girls and boys to grow up? Is it just at the mercy of what the world throws, and in the name of being liberal, being free, you don't choose to exercise your discretion?

You make movies like Befikre to prove the point that " Kissing is not a Taboo", yeah, all right, but where does the need to get to display it publicly arise? I don't know what is right or wrong in these matters, but all I know is that it is not okay when a boy/girl feels this way growing up, just trying to talk to someone, and tell them not to give much importance to it, and it doesn't make any sense to me ever.

In ancient India, the boy and the girl were married unofficially at the age of 12-13(after balya avastha to brahmacharya), the boy would go to the Gurukula for the next 12-13years of his life, and the girl would stay in the village. The next 12 years, they don't meet, no communication, but both of them had an emotional bond that would take care of any such problems that would arise. And when they are 24-25, they would be married officially and would settle into Grishastha Ashrama, with a deep sense of love and affection. Okay, there will always be exceptions. Sometimes, you might feel that you don't have the option to choose, but it worked. It worked wonderfully well, at least in this part of the world.

For whatever cultural failures have turned this into an exploitative child marriage practice in the last 5 centuries, I don't know. It was insane enough for us to allow a 60-year-old man to think that he can marry a 15-year-old girl, impregnate her, be his ardhanareshwari, and vice versa, just because he has the influence/power/money.

All I am saying is do you want the society to keep its mouth shut, be mum, and act as if everything is fine in this world? Follow stupid Gandhi's 3 monkeys: close your eyes, close your mouth, close your ears when you see something wrong?
Do we have the courage to even start a conversation, or do we want to just play the blame game when a horrendous incident like Nirbhaya happens?

I am not sure if the ancient system of Brahmacharya works anymore, for 12-13 years, is too much to grow apart, to change their minds, change their priorities, in this world of vast exposure.

I don't know, I can't write about how it is from a girl's point of view, but whatever it is, I guess it's not easy.

For all the support I got from existing society and norms, existentially it was not enough.
The first relief was when I spoke to a counselor about it, but I still couldn't accept it, though the process of acknowledgment had started. Sadhguru, I don't know how do I convey my gratitude, I suggest anyone who is feeling it this way(not necessarily everyone) Start practicing " ANGAMARDANA", O Mother it made a world of a difference in my life. Give it 6 months, and you will not realize, suddenly the peaks you hit, you will wonder if it was you going through all the drama. You will realize that it is not worth your mental space and time.

My small solution to this is, make Angamardana compulsory in schools after the age of 8. It is a holistic approach to one's mind, body, emotions, and energy. The physical prowess that it provides, along with strength and flexibility is just amazing. Moreover, it is a process that is not limited to the physical. I hope it happens somehow, for I know it will make a world of a difference in our society!

 

P.S. Anyone who tries to take any of my statements and tries to twist it, turn it and ask me " Omg, Do you mean this?" and all the usual nonsense, I am going to Axe/block you right away!

More Information about Angamardana mentioned below.

What is Angamardana?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rG5GM2WhsPc

Introduction to Angamardana - The Ultimate Yogic Workout
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FseaFxUQaCE

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